Happiness comes through fulfilling one's values, not through pleasure. Pleasure has the characteristic of feeling good in the present moment, but does not carry on into the future very far. Eating ice cream yesterday does little to help me feel good about myself today.
However, when I do something I value, I create self-esteem. When I give a good performance on piano for the dance on Friday night, I will think back to that many times and feel good about myself for having done that. If I helped a friend in need, I will look back on that many times as proof that I am a kind person.
Thus, long term happiness comes from self-esteem, and self-esteem comes from doing things we value.
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