At work today, I passed an unknown man in the hall, and as is often the case, glanced at his face with unease, wondering if he would glance at me, like me, give me a look of approval or disapproval as I walked by.
I caught a glimpse of the two of us in a glass door. I was a big man next to him, and the thought flashed through my mind, "He's probably afraid of *me*!" I smiled, and the approval I had covertly sought from him suddenly seemed very silly.
This man had no authority over me. He could not punish me for not fitting his perception of proper behavior or dress. His disapproval would mean no more than a barking dog chained to a tree - amusing at best, but ultimately irrelevant. I could even tease him (the dog or the man) and get him riled up - his response would have no relevance to my safety or well-being.
A dog, of course, thinks his opinion the most important in the world; and I, as a human, look down and smile at his naivete. His response comes from limited consciousness, irrelevant to the real world.
Is this not true of any of us who judge?
Wednesday, November 30, 2005
Monday, November 7, 2005
The Vulnerability of Men
I'm back from the Mountain today - a profound and moving weekend with men. One of the things men find hardest to do - at least I do - is to become close and show affection for other men. Those barriers were broken down this weekend, and we held each other like brothers, able to look into each other's eyes and say how much we love each other. It is rare that I have done deep men's work in my life, but each time it has been profound.
On Saturday evening, three women were brought into our retreat, partially so that we could look at our response to the presence of women. One of our responses was to feel threatened. We had spent two days finding ourselves as men, finding our strength, our connection with the earth, our true desires, without women being an influence. Facing the prospect of these women being there, we felt afraid. One man said, women can cut us off at the knees. The moment we know a woman is watching, we lose who we are, and start wondering if we are pleasing them, if we are good enough, if we are acceptable, and suddenly we have to prove ourselves. Without women present, we knew we were okay the way we were.
This is a vulnerability in men that had escaped me, but was obvious the moment it was mentioned. There is both the desire to be approved by a woman, as well as the desire to be wanted by them, and both of those desires can cause us to compromise who we really are. The joint vulnerability we felt gave us a new resolve to be ourselves, whether or not women were looking. It took a bit, but soon we were dancing, knowing the women were watching, but also knowing we were perfectly okay just the way we were, and we didn't have to modify anything to please them.
I have a new feel today for what it means to be male - to be rooted in the earth, and to have the strength to know what I want, to state it clearly, and to go for it.
On Saturday evening, three women were brought into our retreat, partially so that we could look at our response to the presence of women. One of our responses was to feel threatened. We had spent two days finding ourselves as men, finding our strength, our connection with the earth, our true desires, without women being an influence. Facing the prospect of these women being there, we felt afraid. One man said, women can cut us off at the knees. The moment we know a woman is watching, we lose who we are, and start wondering if we are pleasing them, if we are good enough, if we are acceptable, and suddenly we have to prove ourselves. Without women present, we knew we were okay the way we were.
This is a vulnerability in men that had escaped me, but was obvious the moment it was mentioned. There is both the desire to be approved by a woman, as well as the desire to be wanted by them, and both of those desires can cause us to compromise who we really are. The joint vulnerability we felt gave us a new resolve to be ourselves, whether or not women were looking. It took a bit, but soon we were dancing, knowing the women were watching, but also knowing we were perfectly okay just the way we were, and we didn't have to modify anything to please them.
I have a new feel today for what it means to be male - to be rooted in the earth, and to have the strength to know what I want, to state it clearly, and to go for it.
Wednesday, November 2, 2005
Friends
Tomorrow I take off for Shalom Mountain, a wonderful, magical place in the Catskill Mountains, where people grow, learn, heal, and find deep connections with each other. Ironically, I am going to the Wild Man retreat while still considering the offer of the Amazon native to live in his village in the jungle.
I feel extraordinarily blessed with friends. Shalom is a place I made many friends during my training there last year, and I am looking forward to seeing some of them again. And the community that has formed around the Sunday night gatherings warms my soul and feeds me. My life is rich with friends, lovers, support people, community. I think of how many people out there live lives very alone, maybe hoping for one person who will take away all their loneliness, and I feel lucky for the life I have found.
I often forget, and start to believe I am alone again, as was true for much of my life. At times like that, I withdraw and quickly fulfill my own prophesy. But today, at least, I remember, and I am grateful to every one of my friends for being in my life.
I feel extraordinarily blessed with friends. Shalom is a place I made many friends during my training there last year, and I am looking forward to seeing some of them again. And the community that has formed around the Sunday night gatherings warms my soul and feeds me. My life is rich with friends, lovers, support people, community. I think of how many people out there live lives very alone, maybe hoping for one person who will take away all their loneliness, and I feel lucky for the life I have found.
I often forget, and start to believe I am alone again, as was true for much of my life. At times like that, I withdraw and quickly fulfill my own prophesy. But today, at least, I remember, and I am grateful to every one of my friends for being in my life.
A Hole in my Head
I wake up, as I have so many mornings in the past, not knowing where I am, or who I am. I wake up lost. I look out the window, and try to remember, what was I doing yesterday? What did I decide my goals were? What is supposed to be important to me today? Why am I here?
I have the distinct impression that I knew the answers to these questions, probably just yesterday, but once again, this morning, they are gone, and I am alone.
There is a hole in my head. I go to look for answers where I know I put them, and I know they were there just yesterday; but when I look, there is nothing, just a hole - no information, no hint of what was there before - just emptiness, filling time and space.
I have actually come a long way. For years upon years, I did not remember that I had known the answers yesterday - I did not realize that I kept forgetting and relearning the same lessons over and over. Today, I remember enough to realize the daily disappearance, and once again, I am alone in a world without meaning.
Relationships feel distant. It feels like they mean nothing to me, as if I would not recognize a dear friend or lover if they walked into my bedroom - I would just smile politely, as I do with a stranger, and wonder what they wanted.
I know yesterday I had passions - things seemed terribly important, there were things to do, things that had to be stopped, or be fixed, or be pursued. Today, I can't remember what they were - some chores come to mind, but that sense of vital energy that makes life worth living - I can't quite remember what it felt like.
I can remember that I have loved. I can even remember the expression on my face as I wrap my arms around someone I care about. But I can't remember the feeling that would have led to that expression, nor what would have motivated me to care.
Long, long ago, I learned a hard lesson - my deep, craving need for love was inappropriate for the world I lived in - it was out of place, it had no means of fulfillment, like a porpoise on land, desiring water. There was no water in this life, nothing to bathe and sooth the dry parched surface of my soul. And when I couldn't have what I so deeply wanted, I disciplined myself to stop looking, to block out the longing, to not ask why. The discipline had to be constant, continuous, because the craving was continuous.
Occassionally, with increasing frequency, I do find deep connection in my life - moments when I know without a doubt that I love someone, moments when I feel I am fully open and giving, and I have found my purpose in life, moments when I am in the flow and I experience what it is like to be one with the universe. Those moments are often so poinent that I have to choke off some of the feeling - I fear I will lose myself and somehow not come back. I fear I would unleash all the refused grief of hardened years, all the denied longings of the unknown being within, and I would cry blood. Like a starving person from the desert, who has to readjust to taking in food again, I fear the abundance would kill me if I truly let it in.
And so my brain protects me, as it has for so long, faithfully erasing those dangerous memories of love from yesterday, so I can start again, fresh, clean, and alone, without reason to want more.
Ever so slowly, love is winning out. Each morning, I trust my suspicions a bit more, suspicions that I do have purpose, that I am loved, that the world is indeed my home. Suspicions that there is fulfillment to my longings, that my passions do have lovers waiting for them, that my feelings have a reason for being here other than torment. Ever so slowly, each day, I start to find my grounding, and memories return, and I once again walk among the living. The hole in my head is slowly closing and filling in.
If I do not remember you, my friend, it is not because I do not love you - it is because there is still a hole in my head, and each day, I must retrieve from it the things that make life worth living.
I have the distinct impression that I knew the answers to these questions, probably just yesterday, but once again, this morning, they are gone, and I am alone.
There is a hole in my head. I go to look for answers where I know I put them, and I know they were there just yesterday; but when I look, there is nothing, just a hole - no information, no hint of what was there before - just emptiness, filling time and space.
I have actually come a long way. For years upon years, I did not remember that I had known the answers yesterday - I did not realize that I kept forgetting and relearning the same lessons over and over. Today, I remember enough to realize the daily disappearance, and once again, I am alone in a world without meaning.
Relationships feel distant. It feels like they mean nothing to me, as if I would not recognize a dear friend or lover if they walked into my bedroom - I would just smile politely, as I do with a stranger, and wonder what they wanted.
I know yesterday I had passions - things seemed terribly important, there were things to do, things that had to be stopped, or be fixed, or be pursued. Today, I can't remember what they were - some chores come to mind, but that sense of vital energy that makes life worth living - I can't quite remember what it felt like.
I can remember that I have loved. I can even remember the expression on my face as I wrap my arms around someone I care about. But I can't remember the feeling that would have led to that expression, nor what would have motivated me to care.
Long, long ago, I learned a hard lesson - my deep, craving need for love was inappropriate for the world I lived in - it was out of place, it had no means of fulfillment, like a porpoise on land, desiring water. There was no water in this life, nothing to bathe and sooth the dry parched surface of my soul. And when I couldn't have what I so deeply wanted, I disciplined myself to stop looking, to block out the longing, to not ask why. The discipline had to be constant, continuous, because the craving was continuous.
Occassionally, with increasing frequency, I do find deep connection in my life - moments when I know without a doubt that I love someone, moments when I feel I am fully open and giving, and I have found my purpose in life, moments when I am in the flow and I experience what it is like to be one with the universe. Those moments are often so poinent that I have to choke off some of the feeling - I fear I will lose myself and somehow not come back. I fear I would unleash all the refused grief of hardened years, all the denied longings of the unknown being within, and I would cry blood. Like a starving person from the desert, who has to readjust to taking in food again, I fear the abundance would kill me if I truly let it in.
And so my brain protects me, as it has for so long, faithfully erasing those dangerous memories of love from yesterday, so I can start again, fresh, clean, and alone, without reason to want more.
Ever so slowly, love is winning out. Each morning, I trust my suspicions a bit more, suspicions that I do have purpose, that I am loved, that the world is indeed my home. Suspicions that there is fulfillment to my longings, that my passions do have lovers waiting for them, that my feelings have a reason for being here other than torment. Ever so slowly, each day, I start to find my grounding, and memories return, and I once again walk among the living. The hole in my head is slowly closing and filling in.
If I do not remember you, my friend, it is not because I do not love you - it is because there is still a hole in my head, and each day, I must retrieve from it the things that make life worth living.
Friday, October 28, 2005
Living in the Jungle
While in the Amazon, I met a native who comes periodically to the city. He offered me to come live in his village 9 days upstream for as long as I wanted - he said I could live with his family, and they'd teach me the language, and how to hunt and fish, how to get medicines from the plants and trees, how to live independent of civilization.
I have been contemplating what life without civilization would be like ever since. In my fantasy, there would only be two kinds of activities - survival and play. I would do what was necessary to provide my basic needs - food, clothing, shelter. Everything else was optional - I would only do other things because I wanted to. It would be play.
When I think about how I live my life now, I notice that most of my activity is neither survival nor play - I do most of what I do because I should. I should go to work, I should be on time. I should clean the house, cook for my son, spend time with him. I should get that room rented and the basement vacuumed.
Most of what I do on the computer is neither need nor play. I should do a virus check. That list should be put in order, or I will have problems later on. I should update my web site.
There are very few things I do for actual survival - yes, theoretically my job is for my survival - but I don't need that job to survive. I don't have to have a clean house to stay alive. I really don't have to have a car - many people survive just fine without a car. The logical distance between going to work and putting food in my mouth is so remote that I just take it on faith that one is necessary for the other to happen. But what if it's not? What are the other possibilities?
Most of my frustration during the day comes from something not being as it should - the traffic is too slow, my computer crashed, I feel sleepy, my mailbox is filled with junk mail again, people drive slow in the left lane instead of moving to the right. Deep inside I feel all these things shouldn't be, as well as the people suffering from hurricanes, tsunamis, and suicide bombers. The world shouldn't be this way. I shake my mental fist at life, and go on.
But in my idealistic fantasy of the jungle, there is just living. Things just are the way they are. I don't say, the rabbits should be slower so I can catch them easier. I notice how fast the rabbits are, and plan on how to catch them accordingly. I notice when I am cold, and do something about it. I don't say why can't I have a pill instead of searching for a weed to make me feel better. The options are clear, and nothing else exists. When people tell me I have to do things a certain way, I say, why? When nature tells me, I say, okay. There is no one to argue with.
So why do I live with all these shoulds? Why is it so important to me for the world to conform to my idea of how things should be?
Control. If life is predictable, it feels safe. If I can control life, then I can feel safe.
If I do not feel safe, I must believe that life is hostile.
If my environment is hostile, then it was not made for me, nor I for it. I am an alien to my environment, and like a space traveller, I have to have artificial means of life support in order to survive. My life support system is shoulds - holding off reality with my demands of how life should be, approving or disapproving each event during the day, finding out whose naughty or nice by checking my list of approved actions.
We live in an age of technology, where devices are supposed to behave certain ways. Electronics are made to follow the rules of programming - when they deviate from the rule, it is bad - it is an error, a malfunction, and we buy a new one. Technology does not produce creative devices - my PC doesn't decide to become a Mac today just for the fun of it, to see how I will react. And those of us creating technology work hard to be sure our devices and programs follow all the rules exactly, all the time. Is it no wonder that the artist in us suffers?
What would it be like if I were to just let go? To notice what is, to live with it, and to act out of joy and creativity when I wanted, to play with life, dance with it, see how it would react to my teasing and leading. To let go of control, where no outcome is wrong, even if it is surprising or disappointing. What would it be like if I were to let go of trying to be as I should, if I simply did what was necessary to live, and the rest of the time, followed my passion?
Comment posted by Anonymous
at 10/29/2005 11:50:00 PM
I think the simpler life that you fantasy has its pros and cons, and I have had the same fantasy at times, and there are even TV shows now about groups of people simulating living a tribal or survival life as a game, but I'll go along with the civilized life. I've posted a reply to your Oct. 20 blog message which is really a copy of my previous message welcoming you back and commenting on what harm our society is doing to our planet. Andy
Comment posted by Heidi
at 10/29/2005 8:23:00 PM
I read your Blog about the idealistic wilderness life.
Seems to me the ideal mind set would work wonderfully if we were not pre-programmed with our life-long
experiences.
I remember that a friend of mine, coming back from Europe missed a simple thing like iceberg lettuce and another craved the American hamburger.
Thinking -- how would you feel missing the taste of real butter? (having seen you react frequently at
restaurants and retreats to the lousy food *s*.
On the other hand, it is conceivable that we can re-program many of our own desires in order to adapt to the passion of the wilderness freedoms - I have also experienced that kind of adapting - like at retreat where there is no outside communication (at least not for me)) I totally detatch from it - but I also know that it all comes to an end at a specific time. Heidi
I have been contemplating what life without civilization would be like ever since. In my fantasy, there would only be two kinds of activities - survival and play. I would do what was necessary to provide my basic needs - food, clothing, shelter. Everything else was optional - I would only do other things because I wanted to. It would be play.
When I think about how I live my life now, I notice that most of my activity is neither survival nor play - I do most of what I do because I should. I should go to work, I should be on time. I should clean the house, cook for my son, spend time with him. I should get that room rented and the basement vacuumed.
Most of what I do on the computer is neither need nor play. I should do a virus check. That list should be put in order, or I will have problems later on. I should update my web site.
There are very few things I do for actual survival - yes, theoretically my job is for my survival - but I don't need that job to survive. I don't have to have a clean house to stay alive. I really don't have to have a car - many people survive just fine without a car. The logical distance between going to work and putting food in my mouth is so remote that I just take it on faith that one is necessary for the other to happen. But what if it's not? What are the other possibilities?
Most of my frustration during the day comes from something not being as it should - the traffic is too slow, my computer crashed, I feel sleepy, my mailbox is filled with junk mail again, people drive slow in the left lane instead of moving to the right. Deep inside I feel all these things shouldn't be, as well as the people suffering from hurricanes, tsunamis, and suicide bombers. The world shouldn't be this way. I shake my mental fist at life, and go on.
But in my idealistic fantasy of the jungle, there is just living. Things just are the way they are. I don't say, the rabbits should be slower so I can catch them easier. I notice how fast the rabbits are, and plan on how to catch them accordingly. I notice when I am cold, and do something about it. I don't say why can't I have a pill instead of searching for a weed to make me feel better. The options are clear, and nothing else exists. When people tell me I have to do things a certain way, I say, why? When nature tells me, I say, okay. There is no one to argue with.
So why do I live with all these shoulds? Why is it so important to me for the world to conform to my idea of how things should be?
Control. If life is predictable, it feels safe. If I can control life, then I can feel safe.
If I do not feel safe, I must believe that life is hostile.
If my environment is hostile, then it was not made for me, nor I for it. I am an alien to my environment, and like a space traveller, I have to have artificial means of life support in order to survive. My life support system is shoulds - holding off reality with my demands of how life should be, approving or disapproving each event during the day, finding out whose naughty or nice by checking my list of approved actions.
We live in an age of technology, where devices are supposed to behave certain ways. Electronics are made to follow the rules of programming - when they deviate from the rule, it is bad - it is an error, a malfunction, and we buy a new one. Technology does not produce creative devices - my PC doesn't decide to become a Mac today just for the fun of it, to see how I will react. And those of us creating technology work hard to be sure our devices and programs follow all the rules exactly, all the time. Is it no wonder that the artist in us suffers?
What would it be like if I were to just let go? To notice what is, to live with it, and to act out of joy and creativity when I wanted, to play with life, dance with it, see how it would react to my teasing and leading. To let go of control, where no outcome is wrong, even if it is surprising or disappointing. What would it be like if I were to let go of trying to be as I should, if I simply did what was necessary to live, and the rest of the time, followed my passion?
Comment posted by Anonymous
at 10/29/2005 11:50:00 PM
I think the simpler life that you fantasy has its pros and cons, and I have had the same fantasy at times, and there are even TV shows now about groups of people simulating living a tribal or survival life as a game, but I'll go along with the civilized life. I've posted a reply to your Oct. 20 blog message which is really a copy of my previous message welcoming you back and commenting on what harm our society is doing to our planet. Andy
Comment posted by Heidi
at 10/29/2005 8:23:00 PM
I read your Blog about the idealistic wilderness life.
Seems to me the ideal mind set would work wonderfully if we were not pre-programmed with our life-long
experiences.
I remember that a friend of mine, coming back from Europe missed a simple thing like iceberg lettuce and another craved the American hamburger.
Thinking -- how would you feel missing the taste of real butter? (having seen you react frequently at
restaurants and retreats to the lousy food *s*.
On the other hand, it is conceivable that we can re-program many of our own desires in order to adapt to the passion of the wilderness freedoms - I have also experienced that kind of adapting - like at retreat where there is no outside communication (at least not for me)) I totally detatch from it - but I also know that it all comes to an end at a specific time. Heidi
Friday, October 21, 2005
End of the World
At the risk of being given a white robe, poster, and a spot on the city sidewalk, I believe it is entirely possible that we only have a few generations before the planet runs into inevitable disaster, and civilization as we know it, and perhaps the human race, could be gone - that we can all forget having great grandchildren.
But when I get past the stages of panic and despair, sometimes I find a new place of peace. It could very well be that the human race was never meant to live forever - after all, that is not the nature of life. All things must pass. It may be that we are only meant to last a brief time, this tiny six million year tick of the evolutionary clock, like a wildflower blooming for a day before it takes its exit from the world.
If there is truly nothing that can be done, if these are truly our last days, then our job would be to shine in the time that is left, rather than to fight a hopeless fight or drown our sorrows in ever more sophisticated technology. We could accept our approaching death with grace, and live as we truly want to live - with grace and beauty and love in the short time we have left. The phrase "Live each day as if it were your last" might take on a new meaning. And we could love each other, and love our planet - not necessarily because we can save it, but because it is our true nature to love, and it is in loving that we find the greatest joy and peace.
Happiness is not found in the achievement of grand goals, but in the moment, in the echo of the laughter of children, in a moment of ecstasy with a lover, in the delicasy of a wildflower, here but for a moment.
Is this not all the more reason to start living now as we truly want to live? And is it not in living as we were meant to live that there is any hope at all?
But when I get past the stages of panic and despair, sometimes I find a new place of peace. It could very well be that the human race was never meant to live forever - after all, that is not the nature of life. All things must pass. It may be that we are only meant to last a brief time, this tiny six million year tick of the evolutionary clock, like a wildflower blooming for a day before it takes its exit from the world.
If there is truly nothing that can be done, if these are truly our last days, then our job would be to shine in the time that is left, rather than to fight a hopeless fight or drown our sorrows in ever more sophisticated technology. We could accept our approaching death with grace, and live as we truly want to live - with grace and beauty and love in the short time we have left. The phrase "Live each day as if it were your last" might take on a new meaning. And we could love each other, and love our planet - not necessarily because we can save it, but because it is our true nature to love, and it is in loving that we find the greatest joy and peace.
Happiness is not found in the achievement of grand goals, but in the moment, in the echo of the laughter of children, in a moment of ecstasy with a lover, in the delicasy of a wildflower, here but for a moment.
Is this not all the more reason to start living now as we truly want to live? And is it not in living as we were meant to live that there is any hope at all?
Thursday, October 20, 2005
Trip to the Amazon
Just got back from a trip to Brazil - went to Manaus in the heart of the Amazon, and then Rio de Janeiro.
The Amazon stays on my mind - both the destruction and the concept of living without the crutches of civilization holding us up. Many of the natives have had to leave the jungle and get jobs in cities because their food - animals and fish - is disappearing due to deforestation. We saw very little wildlife there - most had been killed off. The Amazon river was at a 60-year low, and many side rivers were a small stream that a canoe could barely go up, causing vast areas upstream to be cut off from food and medical supplies from the city, since the river is their mode of transportation. We were told the drought is caused by changing weather patterns due to global warming. They also had a hurricane in southern Brazil - I believe the first in recorded history - due to global warming. The dolphins in the river are dying because the water is too warm. It may be in our life time that the way of life humans have known for millions of years will finally be eradicated from the planet, and our industrial life of the past few generations will take over, further destroying the infrastructure that was our birthplace. The life forms that took 60 billion years to produce human beings are being wiped out in a few human generations. We are killing our mother. And who knows if we really have what it takes to survive without her.
I still think about the offer from the native to go live in the jungle for a while. There are still an estimated 60 tribes in the Amazon that have never even been contacted by the outside world, still unpolluted by our ways. Tobias Schneebaum, author of Keep the River on your Right, went to live with the canibals in the Amazon some 40 years ago or so, and ate human flesh with them. He went back recently to produce a movie of them, and found them sitting around watching satillite TV. It will not be long before Coca Cola and Sony will become necessities of life for everyone in the world, and the corporations will have succeeded in totally destroying our connection with the mother earth in return for increased dividends. When will I ever have an opportunity again to find out what humans really need to live and be happy, before civilization convinced us we needed more?
I asked one of the natives who is now living in the city at Manaus and who had not been back to his village since he left (it is two weeks upstream), if he missed anything about the village. He said life was much easier there. Here he has to work 40 hours a week or more just to make ends meet. There he was with his community while he worked, instead of at a place of employment, and it did not take so many hours in order to provide what they needed to live. An easier life in the jungle? That sure challenges my view of things.
So I'm back in the world of computers, cell phones, PDA's, cars, polution, the "source of modern civilization" - America, from where corporate interests have spread world-wide, changing and destroying cultures and traditions thousands of years old, changing social and religious structure perhaps hundreds of thousands of years old. Technology, which in one tick of the clock has split the atom, traveled to other planets, modified our dna, produced artificial foods that we eat, allowed us to cram together into cities with no possible way of supporting the food and heat that we need to survive.
Yes, it is a way of living. But we do not know if it is viable. People cut down the forests because they want money like us - they want TV's and cars and computers and other "good things". Is there room on this planet for every poor person to have a car? Would our atmosphere survive it? Have we created a world where we can't allow the poor to rise to our level because our planet won't survive if they do? Is Iraq the beginning of the fight to horde the fuel of technology as we go rushing towards some crisis point? Our lifestyle is not viable in the long run. Our society is not sustainable. We have created a civilization based on the assumption of infinite resources, but now they are quickly dwindling. What happens when they run out? How many of us are prepared to go back to the jungle and live simply again? And if we did, would there still be fish to eat?
So, these is my ponderings from my trip. There is much more, but it will have to come out another time.
Comment posted by Anonymous
at 10/29/2005 10:24:00 PM
Hi, Gene,
Welcome back!
Your account of your experiences in Brazil, in the "real world" as well as Rio, tells me that our planet is in worse shape than I had realized. What a shame, that our way of life in the USA is harming innocent people in other countries because we are so carried away in chasing the dollar sign (it's hard to not be part of it even if one is living simply), polluting, consuming non-renewable resources, destroying natural habitats. Part of it is global warming apparently, caused by atmospheric changes which in turn are caused by pollution. Humanity is becoming a cancer on the planet, like someone said, and this planet is the only planet we've got.
On the positive side, Rio must have been a lot of fun, and I get the impression that your trip and your experience as a whole was a good learning and fun experience.
I'll be out of town from this afternoon until I return Sunday PM from a weekend Sufi Dance Camp (Dances of Universal Peace and related activities) and the last day of the Maryland Renaissance Festival.
Andy
The Amazon stays on my mind - both the destruction and the concept of living without the crutches of civilization holding us up. Many of the natives have had to leave the jungle and get jobs in cities because their food - animals and fish - is disappearing due to deforestation. We saw very little wildlife there - most had been killed off. The Amazon river was at a 60-year low, and many side rivers were a small stream that a canoe could barely go up, causing vast areas upstream to be cut off from food and medical supplies from the city, since the river is their mode of transportation. We were told the drought is caused by changing weather patterns due to global warming. They also had a hurricane in southern Brazil - I believe the first in recorded history - due to global warming. The dolphins in the river are dying because the water is too warm. It may be in our life time that the way of life humans have known for millions of years will finally be eradicated from the planet, and our industrial life of the past few generations will take over, further destroying the infrastructure that was our birthplace. The life forms that took 60 billion years to produce human beings are being wiped out in a few human generations. We are killing our mother. And who knows if we really have what it takes to survive without her.
I still think about the offer from the native to go live in the jungle for a while. There are still an estimated 60 tribes in the Amazon that have never even been contacted by the outside world, still unpolluted by our ways. Tobias Schneebaum, author of Keep the River on your Right, went to live with the canibals in the Amazon some 40 years ago or so, and ate human flesh with them. He went back recently to produce a movie of them, and found them sitting around watching satillite TV. It will not be long before Coca Cola and Sony will become necessities of life for everyone in the world, and the corporations will have succeeded in totally destroying our connection with the mother earth in return for increased dividends. When will I ever have an opportunity again to find out what humans really need to live and be happy, before civilization convinced us we needed more?
I asked one of the natives who is now living in the city at Manaus and who had not been back to his village since he left (it is two weeks upstream), if he missed anything about the village. He said life was much easier there. Here he has to work 40 hours a week or more just to make ends meet. There he was with his community while he worked, instead of at a place of employment, and it did not take so many hours in order to provide what they needed to live. An easier life in the jungle? That sure challenges my view of things.
So I'm back in the world of computers, cell phones, PDA's, cars, polution, the "source of modern civilization" - America, from where corporate interests have spread world-wide, changing and destroying cultures and traditions thousands of years old, changing social and religious structure perhaps hundreds of thousands of years old. Technology, which in one tick of the clock has split the atom, traveled to other planets, modified our dna, produced artificial foods that we eat, allowed us to cram together into cities with no possible way of supporting the food and heat that we need to survive.
Yes, it is a way of living. But we do not know if it is viable. People cut down the forests because they want money like us - they want TV's and cars and computers and other "good things". Is there room on this planet for every poor person to have a car? Would our atmosphere survive it? Have we created a world where we can't allow the poor to rise to our level because our planet won't survive if they do? Is Iraq the beginning of the fight to horde the fuel of technology as we go rushing towards some crisis point? Our lifestyle is not viable in the long run. Our society is not sustainable. We have created a civilization based on the assumption of infinite resources, but now they are quickly dwindling. What happens when they run out? How many of us are prepared to go back to the jungle and live simply again? And if we did, would there still be fish to eat?
So, these is my ponderings from my trip. There is much more, but it will have to come out another time.
Comment posted by Anonymous
at 10/29/2005 10:24:00 PM
Hi, Gene,
Welcome back!
Your account of your experiences in Brazil, in the "real world" as well as Rio, tells me that our planet is in worse shape than I had realized. What a shame, that our way of life in the USA is harming innocent people in other countries because we are so carried away in chasing the dollar sign (it's hard to not be part of it even if one is living simply), polluting, consuming non-renewable resources, destroying natural habitats. Part of it is global warming apparently, caused by atmospheric changes which in turn are caused by pollution. Humanity is becoming a cancer on the planet, like someone said, and this planet is the only planet we've got.
On the positive side, Rio must have been a lot of fun, and I get the impression that your trip and your experience as a whole was a good learning and fun experience.
I'll be out of town from this afternoon until I return Sunday PM from a weekend Sufi Dance Camp (Dances of Universal Peace and related activities) and the last day of the Maryland Renaissance Festival.
Andy
Saturday, August 13, 2005
The right to not be abused
Do we have the right to not be abused? Seems like a silly question. Of course - no one should be abused. It's wrong, and it shouldn't happen. Plain and simple.
However, there's a problem with this, especially for past abuse. It already happened. There is no should or shoudn't about it. It happened.
What does a right mean? Legally, rights don't stop anyone from violating us - rights merely give us the ability to sue and gain some recompense for our pain. In short, for some acts, we have a legal right to get even. Yes, funds recovered may go towards repaying losses, etc., but mostly, it satisfies our sense of justice, and also deters it from happening to others, because there is a consequence.
But when we are simply talking about human interaction, where someone is not kind to another, or acts selfishly, or says something cruel, what then? What does the concept of having a right buy us, when there is no legal recourse? We certainly have the right to take action to avoid further abuse. We have a right and an obligation to protect ourselves and those we love, even if the abuse is merely perceived or just a possibility. But when something has already happened, what then? What does our "right" buy us? Do we have the right to a life free from pain and all unhappiness? Who do we sue when we stub our toe on a rock, or get sick, or simply don't like life the way it is at the moment?
I find I often take offense at small things that others say and do, from the driver on the road cutting me off, to a friend who doesn't show as much kindness as I think they should. I am offended because I believe somehow that I have a right to be spared those annoyances, that I don't deserve it, that it should be different, that people should act differently. What effect does my belief in rights, shoulds and shouldn'ts get me? I get to feel like the righteous victim, the insulted one, the one who has justified anger, the one who wouldn't be as mean as the other guy. It gives me the ability to separate myself from the offender and create a world where I am good and he is bad.
To think of dropping my war cry against past abuses in my life seems immoral to me. And yet, what do I gain by living in resentment? I know full well that most of what I am angry at are acts done in innocence or ignorance. Yes, I've been hurt. Do I want to add to that the illusion that that they plotted evily against me?
What if we just dropped all past claims to being right, protected, loved, defended? What if we dropped our cases against people who made us feel violated? Then the past simply becomes our life, our story, our path, what happened to us. We no longer have a special corner in the hall of victimhood - we have simply suffered pain just like everyone else. We would be left with dealing with what life has given us - of finding some answer to the question why, of making some sense out of it, and incorporating it into our life experience.
What if there is really no one to blame? What if bad things just happen? What would life be like if we let go of our anger, our resentment, and accepted the life handed us, no matter how little we understand why?
What do you think?
However, there's a problem with this, especially for past abuse. It already happened. There is no should or shoudn't about it. It happened.
What does a right mean? Legally, rights don't stop anyone from violating us - rights merely give us the ability to sue and gain some recompense for our pain. In short, for some acts, we have a legal right to get even. Yes, funds recovered may go towards repaying losses, etc., but mostly, it satisfies our sense of justice, and also deters it from happening to others, because there is a consequence.
But when we are simply talking about human interaction, where someone is not kind to another, or acts selfishly, or says something cruel, what then? What does the concept of having a right buy us, when there is no legal recourse? We certainly have the right to take action to avoid further abuse. We have a right and an obligation to protect ourselves and those we love, even if the abuse is merely perceived or just a possibility. But when something has already happened, what then? What does our "right" buy us? Do we have the right to a life free from pain and all unhappiness? Who do we sue when we stub our toe on a rock, or get sick, or simply don't like life the way it is at the moment?
I find I often take offense at small things that others say and do, from the driver on the road cutting me off, to a friend who doesn't show as much kindness as I think they should. I am offended because I believe somehow that I have a right to be spared those annoyances, that I don't deserve it, that it should be different, that people should act differently. What effect does my belief in rights, shoulds and shouldn'ts get me? I get to feel like the righteous victim, the insulted one, the one who has justified anger, the one who wouldn't be as mean as the other guy. It gives me the ability to separate myself from the offender and create a world where I am good and he is bad.
To think of dropping my war cry against past abuses in my life seems immoral to me. And yet, what do I gain by living in resentment? I know full well that most of what I am angry at are acts done in innocence or ignorance. Yes, I've been hurt. Do I want to add to that the illusion that that they plotted evily against me?
What if we just dropped all past claims to being right, protected, loved, defended? What if we dropped our cases against people who made us feel violated? Then the past simply becomes our life, our story, our path, what happened to us. We no longer have a special corner in the hall of victimhood - we have simply suffered pain just like everyone else. We would be left with dealing with what life has given us - of finding some answer to the question why, of making some sense out of it, and incorporating it into our life experience.
What if there is really no one to blame? What if bad things just happen? What would life be like if we let go of our anger, our resentment, and accepted the life handed us, no matter how little we understand why?
What do you think?
Wednesday, July 27, 2005
Motivated by passion
For the past several months, I've gotten up in the morning and danced to loud rock music, and I love it. I was inspired to do this from a workshop I took, where I could see the energy and life that this music gave us, and decided I wanted that in my life.
Previously, I had always loved quiet and silence in the morning. I would meditate, or sit outside quietly and look at the trees and sky, or listen to very gentle, soothing music. This was also something I did that stirred me greatly, although in a different way. The peace radiated into me, and started my day off feeling present and alive.
I switched to rock music, not because there was anything wrong with the morning quiet, but because I developed a new passion that I followed. There was never a rejection of the way I used to do things - I still remember the wonderful peace I got from those mornings. But right now, I am choosing the energy and life that rock music brings me.
Because I never rejected my previous way of doing things, there is no resistance to it. If I was at someone's house who wanted quiet in the morning, I could easily go right back to that mindset, and fully embrace the silence and reverence. I might miss the rock music, but I would not dislike the quiet. I now have two loves in my morning life, and I can be with either one, and be happy.
I have also not fallen into the trap of saying, rock music is better than quiet - or thinking that this is the "right" way of doing things, or it is somehow superior. Those attitudes would have the effect of cutting me off from the joy of my past, and create the fantasy that I was getting approval for having found the right answer. No, each morning, I get up, and the rock music calls to me. I respond from passion, not from righteousness, or having found the best way. Someday, the passion of the quiet may again call instead, and I hope I am awake enough to respond.
It is possible to act from love instead of from fear.
Previously, I had always loved quiet and silence in the morning. I would meditate, or sit outside quietly and look at the trees and sky, or listen to very gentle, soothing music. This was also something I did that stirred me greatly, although in a different way. The peace radiated into me, and started my day off feeling present and alive.
I switched to rock music, not because there was anything wrong with the morning quiet, but because I developed a new passion that I followed. There was never a rejection of the way I used to do things - I still remember the wonderful peace I got from those mornings. But right now, I am choosing the energy and life that rock music brings me.
Because I never rejected my previous way of doing things, there is no resistance to it. If I was at someone's house who wanted quiet in the morning, I could easily go right back to that mindset, and fully embrace the silence and reverence. I might miss the rock music, but I would not dislike the quiet. I now have two loves in my morning life, and I can be with either one, and be happy.
I have also not fallen into the trap of saying, rock music is better than quiet - or thinking that this is the "right" way of doing things, or it is somehow superior. Those attitudes would have the effect of cutting me off from the joy of my past, and create the fantasy that I was getting approval for having found the right answer. No, each morning, I get up, and the rock music calls to me. I respond from passion, not from righteousness, or having found the best way. Someday, the passion of the quiet may again call instead, and I hope I am awake enough to respond.
It is possible to act from love instead of from fear.
Monday, July 25, 2005
Surprised by Gratutide
The workshop last night in my home was graced by 15 people - a lot, I thought, for a summer Sunday evening. I felt a bit awkward about my presentation - not polished, casual, going over a book I had not thoroughly studied. Yet the evening absorbed people's attention.
It struck me that the magic that happens often in my home is not so much due to my expertise as to the experience and openness of the people who fill the space with their energy.
Late that evening, after all had gone home, lying in the arms of someone I love, I felt an urge to cry, without any idea what the feeling was about. I kept picturing the evening, the people, the energy, as I let feelings come up. I found myself imagining remembering this evening as if from years in the future, long after for some reason these evenings had ceased happening, and I found myself saying, that was a good time. This was the kind of evening I wanted to remember. And I was suprised to find an unusually strong gratitude in me - for the warmth and love of the people who had surrounded me that evening, for the intelligence and sensitivity of those who shared their thoughts and feelings, for the physical touch and intimacy of sitting together in the hot tub, defenses down, comfortable in our skins.
And I realized, there is probably more gratitude in me than I allow myself to be aware of. I am used to digging in the dirt, digging up the pain, the fear, the things that block me from living a free and joyous life; I am not used to looking for gratitude within me. Perhaps I am happier than I let myself know.
Comment posted by Anonymous
at 7/29/2005 1:03:00 PM
gratitude is a wonderful emotion i think, and one i have felt more deeply as the years go by in my own life (somehow related also to not taking things for granted).... gene, i could not read your words without thinking of one thing....and that is my ongoing awe, respect and yes, gratitude for the gift you have and share with us in your ability to create the kind of gatherings and safe space that you seem to so naturally , yet somehow magically create time and time again.... do you even realize how rare and precious your gift is? just my thoughts, anita
It struck me that the magic that happens often in my home is not so much due to my expertise as to the experience and openness of the people who fill the space with their energy.
Late that evening, after all had gone home, lying in the arms of someone I love, I felt an urge to cry, without any idea what the feeling was about. I kept picturing the evening, the people, the energy, as I let feelings come up. I found myself imagining remembering this evening as if from years in the future, long after for some reason these evenings had ceased happening, and I found myself saying, that was a good time. This was the kind of evening I wanted to remember. And I was suprised to find an unusually strong gratitude in me - for the warmth and love of the people who had surrounded me that evening, for the intelligence and sensitivity of those who shared their thoughts and feelings, for the physical touch and intimacy of sitting together in the hot tub, defenses down, comfortable in our skins.
And I realized, there is probably more gratitude in me than I allow myself to be aware of. I am used to digging in the dirt, digging up the pain, the fear, the things that block me from living a free and joyous life; I am not used to looking for gratitude within me. Perhaps I am happier than I let myself know.
Comment posted by Anonymous
at 7/29/2005 1:03:00 PM
gratitude is a wonderful emotion i think, and one i have felt more deeply as the years go by in my own life (somehow related also to not taking things for granted).... gene, i could not read your words without thinking of one thing....and that is my ongoing awe, respect and yes, gratitude for the gift you have and share with us in your ability to create the kind of gatherings and safe space that you seem to so naturally , yet somehow magically create time and time again.... do you even realize how rare and precious your gift is? just my thoughts, anita
Saturday, July 16, 2005
ADD and me
Shortly after starting this blog, I was diagnosed as having severe ADD - attention deficit disorder - and I've spent the past two months researching exactly what that means. Now I know why I start things like this blog with such enthusiasm, then get distracted by something else and leave it hanging.
I now have four diagnoses that I have accumulated, like trophies to my insistant introspection - dissociative amnesia, bipolar disorder, PTSD, and ADD. They all overlap somewhat, and I've learned that these disorders often do occur together. They are more like attempts to describe someone's mental and emotional processes than actual discrete attributes, and I'm finding it helpful to have these little boxes to hold and identify the various behaviors of my brain that I observe.
The diagnoses of ADD has been dramatic for me. As I read through all the characteristics of adult ADD, the one that stands out is difficulty completing projects due to distraction. This raises huge feelings in me. I am constantly thinking of ideas, projects, plans, dreams, and I start many of them, only to let them fall by the wayside because something else has taken priority, or because I can't stay focused long enough to get to the finish line. I have done this my entire life.
The result is that even though I feel I am capable of great things in my life, I have had to give up dream after dream in a very slow, painful process that feels like I am giving up my life. When I look at my track record, I can see that it is unreasonable to expect that I will accomplish very many of my dreams at all; yet to give them up is excruciating.
With the ADD diagnoses, suddenly this all changes. I am now faced with the prospect of having a focus and consistency that will allow me to accomplish more. However, this means facing the ambiguity of picking up dreams again that I thought I had safely buried. I find I have become somewhat attached to the feeling of tragedy, rather than jumping at the possibility of new life. And then, there is also the fear that it won't work. What if nothing changes? Will I have to bury those dreams a second time?
Despite the turmoil, I am in high hopes of something changing radically for the better. I fit the descriptions of ADD very well. I have yet to start on any meds, but just understanding my own behavior is a huge relief, and I find I can take the characteristics of my own mind more into account when I plan things, so I don't sabotage myself as much.
So, this is who I am, for better or worse. And I must love who I am. I no longer want to hide. Any part of us we do not love will eventually come to control us. I am taking charge of my life, and I simply don't have time for shame.
I now have four diagnoses that I have accumulated, like trophies to my insistant introspection - dissociative amnesia, bipolar disorder, PTSD, and ADD. They all overlap somewhat, and I've learned that these disorders often do occur together. They are more like attempts to describe someone's mental and emotional processes than actual discrete attributes, and I'm finding it helpful to have these little boxes to hold and identify the various behaviors of my brain that I observe.
The diagnoses of ADD has been dramatic for me. As I read through all the characteristics of adult ADD, the one that stands out is difficulty completing projects due to distraction. This raises huge feelings in me. I am constantly thinking of ideas, projects, plans, dreams, and I start many of them, only to let them fall by the wayside because something else has taken priority, or because I can't stay focused long enough to get to the finish line. I have done this my entire life.
The result is that even though I feel I am capable of great things in my life, I have had to give up dream after dream in a very slow, painful process that feels like I am giving up my life. When I look at my track record, I can see that it is unreasonable to expect that I will accomplish very many of my dreams at all; yet to give them up is excruciating.
With the ADD diagnoses, suddenly this all changes. I am now faced with the prospect of having a focus and consistency that will allow me to accomplish more. However, this means facing the ambiguity of picking up dreams again that I thought I had safely buried. I find I have become somewhat attached to the feeling of tragedy, rather than jumping at the possibility of new life. And then, there is also the fear that it won't work. What if nothing changes? Will I have to bury those dreams a second time?
Despite the turmoil, I am in high hopes of something changing radically for the better. I fit the descriptions of ADD very well. I have yet to start on any meds, but just understanding my own behavior is a huge relief, and I find I can take the characteristics of my own mind more into account when I plan things, so I don't sabotage myself as much.
So, this is who I am, for better or worse. And I must love who I am. I no longer want to hide. Any part of us we do not love will eventually come to control us. I am taking charge of my life, and I simply don't have time for shame.
Sunday, May 29, 2005
Romance and Pain
Of all the things we humans do voluntarily, it seems that romance causes the most pain. We experience untold amounts of suffering, from the first insecurities of how to approach the opposite sex, to the pain of getting rejected, to the confusing stages of courtship where we don't know if we're wanted or not, to the actual relationship where all our baggage surfaces, and we learn (hopefully) how to distinguish between our baggage and our projections, to the horrible loss of leaving or being abandoned, to the lonely years of old age where companions are hard to find.
Given that evolution promotes lifeforms that flourish, and weeds out lifeforms whose nature creates a lot of internal stress and disharmony, I have to wonder how long our romantic period will last. After all, it's only been a century or two that we have lived with this concept of romance being the primary force that determines our mate. Is romance an evolutionary "mistake", and only after many generations of hard lessons will we find a better way of loving each other?
Given that evolution promotes lifeforms that flourish, and weeds out lifeforms whose nature creates a lot of internal stress and disharmony, I have to wonder how long our romantic period will last. After all, it's only been a century or two that we have lived with this concept of romance being the primary force that determines our mate. Is romance an evolutionary "mistake", and only after many generations of hard lessons will we find a better way of loving each other?
Starting off...
Looks like blogs are here to stay, so I'm starting this again, with the hopes that it will fill the need in me to put myself out there in the world, and stop hiding who I am.
Freeheart the person and Freeheart the business have merged more and more, as I have let go of the professional workshops and groups, and focused more on open and free gatherings where I can share myself and my ideas. So this is going to focus a lot on my experience of the world.
I can't help get into theory now and then - it's fun to pretend reality comes in nice, neat little boxes that can be labeled. But I intend to focus more on experience - being here now - believing that my experience of the world is ultimately the only source of truth.
So this will be partially a journal of my own path through this fascinating and bewildering thing called life, and as such, I hereby give myself permission in this blog to mess up, be "in my stuff", say things that may be irrelevant to anyone but me, and just be who I am. At the same time, it is my hope, and often my experience, that others will find commonality and value in my experience, and that this will spur others to experience their own path more deeply and with more awareness.
So, here we go!
Comment posted by Anonymous
at 7/25/2005 1:29:00 PM
"Late that evening, after all had gone home, lying in the arms of someone I love"--Sounds great, Gene! We all love you. I wasn't there Sunday because of something else I didn't want to miss. I'm trying to learn how to reply within your blog; "Anonymous" is the only way for someone without their own blog or webpage. Andy
Comment posted by Anonymous
at 5/29/2005 10:17:00 AM
Hi! It is really you free in the world - WOW!!
Heidi
Freeheart the person and Freeheart the business have merged more and more, as I have let go of the professional workshops and groups, and focused more on open and free gatherings where I can share myself and my ideas. So this is going to focus a lot on my experience of the world.
I can't help get into theory now and then - it's fun to pretend reality comes in nice, neat little boxes that can be labeled. But I intend to focus more on experience - being here now - believing that my experience of the world is ultimately the only source of truth.
So this will be partially a journal of my own path through this fascinating and bewildering thing called life, and as such, I hereby give myself permission in this blog to mess up, be "in my stuff", say things that may be irrelevant to anyone but me, and just be who I am. At the same time, it is my hope, and often my experience, that others will find commonality and value in my experience, and that this will spur others to experience their own path more deeply and with more awareness.
So, here we go!
Comment posted by Anonymous
at 7/25/2005 1:29:00 PM
"Late that evening, after all had gone home, lying in the arms of someone I love"--Sounds great, Gene! We all love you. I wasn't there Sunday because of something else I didn't want to miss. I'm trying to learn how to reply within your blog; "Anonymous" is the only way for someone without their own blog or webpage. Andy
Comment posted by Anonymous
at 5/29/2005 10:17:00 AM
Hi! It is really you free in the world - WOW!!
Heidi
Friday, January 7, 2005
The Paradox of Acceptance and Action
I have struggled a long time over the seeming paradox of accepting everything as it is and yet taking action in this world. The way I have come to look at it is this:
When I accept this moment, the now, the moment is not static. Within every moment is a kind of momentum that moves us forward. Evolution is a simple example of some irresistible force that has continued to produce creatures more and more aware of themselves and their universe. The now I am embracing is not only the static moment of how things are, it is that life force, the chi, that runs through everything, that causes continual renewal and growth.
Accepting the now means being aware of and yielding to that force within me in this moment - the "still small voice", the path I am on, the person I have learned I am becoming. All of these things imply movement for the future, as well as integration of the past. So, do I accept my grumpy attitude today? Yes - but I also accept the energy within me today that is slowly moving me towards a life of more peace. This means I don't have to fix myself, or fix the world - I just have to dance with it - to "play the chess game", instead of thinking I have a thousand serious moves left.
And cherishing the now means to fully see the miracle of that energy flow within me, to fully appreciate it, to get to know it, to feel gratitude for it, to even become fond of it - to have a deep love for it, for the divine within me, within all of us.
That's the theory, anyway :-) That is the direction I want to move.
When I accept this moment, the now, the moment is not static. Within every moment is a kind of momentum that moves us forward. Evolution is a simple example of some irresistible force that has continued to produce creatures more and more aware of themselves and their universe. The now I am embracing is not only the static moment of how things are, it is that life force, the chi, that runs through everything, that causes continual renewal and growth.
Accepting the now means being aware of and yielding to that force within me in this moment - the "still small voice", the path I am on, the person I have learned I am becoming. All of these things imply movement for the future, as well as integration of the past. So, do I accept my grumpy attitude today? Yes - but I also accept the energy within me today that is slowly moving me towards a life of more peace. This means I don't have to fix myself, or fix the world - I just have to dance with it - to "play the chess game", instead of thinking I have a thousand serious moves left.
And cherishing the now means to fully see the miracle of that energy flow within me, to fully appreciate it, to get to know it, to feel gratitude for it, to even become fond of it - to have a deep love for it, for the divine within me, within all of us.
That's the theory, anyway :-) That is the direction I want to move.
Thursday, January 6, 2005
Is it logical to accept things as they are?
From a friend:
"I call it 'logical' (rather than mystical or spiritual) because what could be more reasonable than accepting things as they are *because they ALREADY ARE that way*, whether I like it or not?"
I call it spiritual as opposed to logical because it is based on experience, and how our spirit/feelings respond to it. I actually find no "reason" to accept things as they are - actually I find a lot of good reasons to dislike the world the way it is, and the only "reason" to accept it may be utilitarian - to not make myself miserable. But it is not a logical conclusion to me that just because the world is a certain way, that I should accept it, or say it is "okay" in any sense. For me, there is a step beyond reason that comes from my experience. I know, when I stop trying to change people, and start to accept them as they are, that things start to flow much better. I only know it from experience, not from logic. Spirituality, the way I use the word, is all about experience - gaining truth from sensing and feeling rather than from deduction or logic. That's why it can't be proven - it has to be picked up by each person in their interactions with life.
"I call it 'logical' (rather than mystical or spiritual) because what could be more reasonable than accepting things as they are *because they ALREADY ARE that way*, whether I like it or not?"
I call it spiritual as opposed to logical because it is based on experience, and how our spirit/feelings respond to it. I actually find no "reason" to accept things as they are - actually I find a lot of good reasons to dislike the world the way it is, and the only "reason" to accept it may be utilitarian - to not make myself miserable. But it is not a logical conclusion to me that just because the world is a certain way, that I should accept it, or say it is "okay" in any sense. For me, there is a step beyond reason that comes from my experience. I know, when I stop trying to change people, and start to accept them as they are, that things start to flow much better. I only know it from experience, not from logic. Spirituality, the way I use the word, is all about experience - gaining truth from sensing and feeling rather than from deduction or logic. That's why it can't be proven - it has to be picked up by each person in their interactions with life.
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